We all do it. Ask a question and continue doing unimportant tasks while the answer is being given. We do our best to actually remember the answer, but have you ever had to re-ask the question? Have you ever asked the question again later on in time, as you don’t even remember if you asked the question to begin with?
Our mouths ask the question but our brains shut off, for the most part, to the response. It is not that we don’t want the answer, we would not waste the time to ask it in the first place, we just don’t know the art of the game.
If you have ever watched an expert Listener, you will know just what I am talking about. It takes real practice and focus to master this strangely. We seem to out grow our natural instincts to wait for a response like we did when we were children. Our busy world has bombarded our senses to the point where we are doing too much at once to actually take the time to listen to things that we wanted to know in the first place.
How can you master this important trait? Where do you start? Focus on the person. Look them in the eyes. Take in what they are not only saying, but the feeling behind the words. Do not interrupt them, no matter how hard it is. Forget any preconceived ideas on what they may say. Take a deep breath before you respond. The silence means more than anything you could have said in that brief moment.
Practice this and you too will start taking in the wonderful moments of the human language. It’s bonding moments and true understanding of another person’s thoughts.
Let me know how you go!